Friday, April 5, 2013

Today, I won

I made a new friend at Costco last week. He is somewhere around 80 years old, with an easy smile and a twinkle in his eyes. He was relaxing on the display of patio furniture when I arrived at the same display fully intending to do the exact same thing. I was on my first trip to Costco since RA showed up determined to be my new frienemy. Pushing that enormous cart around that enormous store was proving painful and exhausting.

I limp. I limp a lot. And shuffle. And kind of hobble. My patio-furniture friend absolutely had to have seen this in the moments before I plopped down on an inviting chair. 

He asked if I was okay. I told him I was struggling a little, that I had Rheumatoid Arthritis and it was kicking my proverbial teeth in.

My new BFF nodded sagely. "I have arthritis," he said. "Old people arthritis. Makes life tough."

"Yes, it does." I motioned to my tired, pained body taking a rest after only a few minutes of shopping. "And, clearly, today the arthritis won."

He leaned forward on his patio chair. His kind eyes met mine. "Sweetie," he said. "Any day you get out of bed, you win."

Today, my sage friend, wherever you may be, I won.


When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. 
--Henri Nouwen

19 comments:

Karen Adair said...

I LOVE this post. You go, girl. Bless that sweet patio furniture friend. I've been visiting the wrong section of Costco... :)

Valerie Ipson said...

Love this, too!!!

T.J. said...

I think that's gonna be an inspirational thought I'm gonna share for years to come.

Terry W. Ervin II said...

Sounds like a good guy. And I bet he thinks you're a neat lady, too.

Kate Fluckiger said...

Oh, what an amazing, sweet experience. That man was right. As long as you don't give up, you always win.

Canda said...

:) Thanks for sharing this sweet moment.

Sheila said...

What a beautiful experience! Even though your body is making you slow down, you are also being blessed with great wisdom and insight. Many gentle ((HUGS)) sent your way.

Nancy Campbell Allen said...

OH! That is so great, Sarah. What a wonderful man. <3

RKIrvine said...

I knew there was a good reason for liking Costco. He sounds like a sweetheart. Hang in there!!

Kari Pike said...

I needed this inspiration tonight. Thank you for sharing that tender experience. love, love, love it! I'm sorry you are in so much pain.
gentle hugs~

Becca said...

I am convinced that the elderly men in Costco are put there by God to bless my life with their wisdom. I'm glad you got a piece of that.

Jewel said...

What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing that uplifting moment.

Wendy said...

YAY. Glad you got a lift and that today you won!

Julie Daines said...

Old people don't get nearly the credit they deserve! Great story.

Weaver Reads said...

Inspirational! Take the day!

Rachel said...

Keep Calm and Win On.

Agneta and David said...

Yes indeed, this was a tender and sweet story. You are brave and beautiful! I had wanted to tell you earlier, but due to the tears I could not find the the correct keys <3

Laura Deveraux Gemmell said...

I keep coming back to read this every now and then because I love it so much. So glad he was there and so grateful that you can tell this simple and powerful story so beautifully! Thank you for sharing :)

Heidi said...

What a wonderful story. Thanks for recording and sharing this!

And I'm so impressed you tackled Costco! I can't even handle one of those carts empty. :)

I also wanted to ask (since I don't know anything about RA), would a cane or walker help? I finally got them for my chronic pain with walking and they've been a real help. My insurance covered my walker and it's a real blessing to always have a seat whenever I need it. (And the cane is great for whacking rude people.) (Okay, not really. It'll actually garner a lot of uncomfortable sympathy.)

Also, a quick plug for a disability parking placard. I wish I hadn't waited so long to get one and really appreciate it now. After you apply, you'll have a good laugh over your new junk mail (pre-planning your cremation and free hearing tests).

Okay, that's the end of my unsolicited advice. You can totally feel free to delete this. :)

Best wishes, my friend!

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